Everyone has a unique constellation of issues, psychological and emotional, that they bear in adult life. These take many forms eg. fear of authority, fear of falling in love, anxiety on meeting people for the first or “over-arching themes” such as people always appearing to always leave them in relationships, or losing everything at the point of success, people continually taking advantage etc.

It doesn’t take great awareness to see that our unique configuration of issues come from the unique trajectory we have undergone from age 0 to the present day.

Why does our childhood inform adulthood in this way? It is widely accepted that there is far greater neuro-plasticity in our minds the younger we are. The neuronal networks are growing at an exponential rate in infancy and are gradually fused and formed along the lines of our environment and the emotional impacts we are exposed to. We often hear the phrase “laying down new neural pathways” when we learn a new skill in adulthood, and this is likely to be the way we learn how to deal with and view the world from our earliest days. It gives us our unique ‘worldview’.

Given that our young minds fuse and form in this way, it must be that significant, high-impact events, usually centered around a sudden or general withdrawal of love (father leaving the family, mother overlooking child’s talents, parents taking out their aggression on child, child being smacked disproportionately to what they have done etc etc) will leave a stake in the ground in the child’s mind and gradually over-time, these flagstone events give the unique perspective and perceptual biases through which we as individuals come to view life. They create our innermost or core beliefs and our expectations about how different facets of life will be. And we know how powerful beliefs are!

These ‘wounds’ from childhood gradually get pressed down further and further, ‘fossilised’ if you will,  deep in the unconscious mind, trampled under the weight of decades of life, far from conscious awareness, to a point where we just ‘act the way we do’. And these modes of behaviour that we end up with as adults are not called into question until it appears that they are in some way obviously dysfunctional, unhelpful or downright painful.

And we cannot see that, until perhaps the 3rd relationship break-up that seems to follow the same pattern, or the 4th time someone has run away with our money for example.

In all cases, then, it is possible to trace these themes or points of pain back to a unique set of events (or single event) in childhood with a view to healing them at source.

As a spiritual or energy healer there are 2 powerful methods for accessing, and then healing old wounds that work extremely well. I will share one with you now. In both cases it involves working with the Higher Self or Spirit, or Holy Spirit – that part of us that is in direct communication with Divinity and that therefore knows all we need to know. It is all-Seeing and all-Knowing — admittedly a part of us that we very rarely access! These techniques are profoundly healing and mind-blowingly accurate.


Take one issue for now that you want to work on.

1. How does the issue FEEL to you? Where do you FEEL it in the body?

2. Bringing your awareness gently to the FEELING, ask Holy Spirit, clearly, with a spirit of enquiry “Holy Spirit, what is it that I have to forgive here?” (don’t get caught up with the word ‘forgive’ .. it just means ‘to let go.’)

3. Wait for the answer. Stay with the feeling as you wait for His answer. It is usually the form of a memory, or a person’s image. The feeling will take you there.

4. When you are shown the answer, simply allow it to be ‘cleared’ and transmuted by breathing Love and Light into it, until you can feel that it has gone. You will know it has been cleared when you suddenly feel a shift into peace or more Light in the body.

To begin with it is sometimes easier to work with a healer who knows these techniques who can hold the Space and give the structure and guidance for these memories to be accessed and released, as it can be an intricate job. And remember, when you are shown the answer, usually a memory you have LONG forgotten about (that teacher who gave you a hard time, or when your ma smacked you for spilling the milk) clear it ALL by bringing in as much Love and Light as possible until it is gone.

I have used this structure many 100’s of times with 100’s of people worldwide and the results are astounding. The release people feel is the release of a lifetime of repressed emotion.


If you would like to experience the power and freedom of this technique please do get in contact via Dan’s website


Published by Dan Sainsbury Transformational Psychology

Dan Sainsbury is a world-leading transformational psychologist and healer.


  1. Thank you for a wonderful post. We tend to make things (much) more difficult than they have to be, don’t we? This is indeed a simple yet very effective way of getting rid of the hurdles we ourselves have put upon our life’s paths. Thank you for the ‘How-To’!
    Love and many blessings,

    1. Yes the mind seems to be set out to seek out and sift through ‘threat’. Through accessing our core wounds, and then giving them up at source, we can begin to see what is underneath the cataclysm of the mind, which is True Self, pure, whole and at Peace.

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