Asking the right question at the right time is like a Swiss Army knife for a therapist. Whether you are helping someone or helping yourself, asking the right question can be a life saver.
Questions act as a PATTERN-INTERRUPT meaning they temporarily interrupt the normal direction and flow of consciousness and then redirect it.
The better the question the more successful the redirection.
Here are some situations where you can best use a great question:
1. When you’re feeling down or disempowered.
First CLEAR the negative feelings in the body by allowing them, then breathing them into the heart-centre and releasing them on the outbreath. Continue til all clear.
The question then is
“If I was totally proactive here and took total ownership of this situation, what would I do?”
Let the answer come, write it down, maybe ask it again to see what else comes.
2. When you have a tendency to catastrophise
Notice the feelings of catastrophisation, allow them in full, breathe them into the h-c, breathe out. Continue til all gone.
Then ask
“What is the perfect outcome here?”
3. When you are lost in life and don’t have a sense of your raison d’être
Clear the feelings as above then,
“Wind forward to the end of my life, what do I have to have achieved to say, yep, a life well-lived?”
So as you see, the combination of first CLEARING the way you currently feel about something then asking the RIGHT QUESTION delivers great dividends.
Dan Sainsbury Transformational Psychology 