INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS: A SEARCHLIGHT AND A MIRROR Most would agree that the most beautiful, intimate and loving relationships provide a depth and magic and majesty to life. When they are going well, they provide so much support and scintillation, and particularly when you are in the first throes of love, you can feel capable of …

Overcoming Awful Anxiety


I'll make this post very brief. If you have anxiety you'll know the terrible feelings that come with this emotion as well as the awful foreboding mental states and entirely unhelpful thoughts. You just wish you knew how to turn it down or off, as you likely know that the thoughts that come with it …

The Mechanism Of Shame


The mechanism of shame, the mechanism of embarrassment, that of fear, guilt, that of any emotional pain is happening in you ... it is not happening to you, despite first appearances. Sure, there may be an outside stimulus, or an internal thought that triggers the machinery, but the machinery itself is in you. This is …