How To Address “Over-Emotionality”

I was working with someone this morning who had been very emotional in her life.

The smallest thing, even someone being kind to her – even her being kind to herself – would make her cry.

Added to which she felt an overabundance of fear and anxiety toward life, toward the list of things she had to do on a given day.

She wanted to address this surplus of emotions with me, this “over-emotionality”.

We’d cleared a lot of the emotions in previous sessions but the anxiety still fired … and THIS tends to point to a single (or multiple) traumatic event in her life.

Sure enough, when she was 20 she lost two friends in a car accident. And in that moment she “decided” that life wasn’t safe. She had unconsciously written the rule that life is not safe and that even the smallest things have a risk.

I ran my clearing technique to TRANSMUTE the memory, all the “toxicity” from it until she felt clear.

She also mentioned that for many years after, she didn’t feel right, that her world was tilted on its axis .. so we ran the clearing technique on the 7 year (or so) timeline post-event.

She then felt distance from it. Like it no longer had an effect on her.

These unconscious programs, ideas, dictates and memories all transmuted, that frees her up to view life and her future with more peace and expansion. With a better ability to make choices that align with her interests and highest values, and not from a crumpled position.

I’m excited by her follow up sessions to ensure we can optimise her future still further.


Your Beliefs Are Screwing You

Your beliefs are underwritten by your fears.

Your beliefs are largely “dictatorial whispers” in that they are largely working away behind the scenes, outside of your consciousness.

They are the silent screams that say “you can’t do that” “you don’t deserve this” “you’re not good enough for this”.

Or “money is inherently bad”, “men only want me for …”, “women only love me when I’m…”

They are cultural imprints, either from wider society or from the more immediate culture of your family.

They are NOT your voice, but an external clamour, internalised.

Please become more conversant with these tacit tremors.

Take time to CAPTURE what your beliefs are, as they underpin the expansion and enjoyment of your life, or lack therein.

Note: as long as they fly behind the radar without your conscious control, the more you will just think they are fact.

They are not, they are fear-ction.


Find a quiet 5-10 minutes where you can reveal your tacit, hidden beliefs.

To take them from unconscious and non-verbalised, to well-defined and fully articulated.

Because at that point we can shift them.

Deep breath into the body and answer the following:

What’s your belief about money?


What’s your belief about relationships?


What’s your belief about (you chose an area you know you struggle with)?


If you want a handle on ILLUMINATING limiting beliefs, and then most importantly CLEARING them, follow the link below.

I will run a process that EXPOSES those beliefs in the different areas of your life, then we will move toward what you DO want instead.

That will then act like a kind of holographic projector to open you to more majestic planes of living 👉

We Have Emotions All Wrong

“I’m so worried about this upcoming event”. 3 days later, “How did the event go?” “Oh fine actually”.

“I feel so guilty about not spending time with him” “Have you asked him if he minds?” “No.”

“I’m so angry at the way she spoke to me today” “How’s that working for you?”.

“I woke up super anxious about all the things I have to do” “Is your anxiety helping?” “No, of course not”.

To be so dictated to and governed by emotions is clearly a waste of time. Yet most humans think they ARE their emotions.

They are blown this way and that by them like a sapling in a gale.

Are you not absolutely done with that nonsense?


We are never told as children, or indeed as adults, that we are not our emotions. And that clearly they are wildly inaccurate most of the time.

Yet they have such a stronghold on us and force us to do things (shout at a loved one sometimes doing irreparable damage to a relationship) and NOT do things (ask that beautiful person out; start your passion-project; leave an abusive partner) way too frequently. 

Therapists and coaches often don’t help either. Far too concerned with the cognitive level, the thought level, trying to challenge your thinking and battling emotions with logic.

It largely DOES NOT HELP.

I was fortunate enough to be exposed to the idea that it is our FEELING (emotional) layer that is the FUEL for our thinking. 

The emotional layer is fundamental to the type of thinking you engage in, funda-mental, literally “underneath the mental” . It’s foundational to it, so when you address THAT level, that’s when the natural shifts and uplifts to your perception and perspective occur.

So, for example, let’s say you have an anxiety at an emotional intensity of an 8 / 10, your thoughts will reflect that.

If you found a way to bring that to a 4, your thoughts would soften and become automatically more optimistic about the thing you are anxious about. 

At a 0 there would be total relief, and an automatically empowered and optimistic mindset.

See, thoughts and feelings work in tandem.

There are 2 techniques I use to bring the emotions to a zero.

If you’d like to try them out, best to speak to Dan directly:

WhatsApp: +44 77239 25056

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Everyone dreams of the perfect relationship. One that is forever joyous, emboldening and empowering. One that involves a deeply scintillating journey through life together. One that gives the deepest sense of passion, meaning and purpose.

Yet very, very few have this. Why is that?

Romantic and intimate Love are difficult because love by its nature flushes up all the neuroses and unhealed programs that are buried deep in the psyche. It flushes up all that is not Itself.

Precisely for this reason, it can feel easier to be single, because you don’t have to “hit up against” all the matter that is generally dormant and unactivated in a life that doesn’t have the mirror of intimacy.

Romantic Love is such a piercing search-light that it can feel like you’re being turned inside out, all the previous unseen material of the unconscious suddenly flushed to the surface to be seen in all its grizzly detail.

Alas, the uninitiated RUN at this point. Or REACT egregiously, to their partner:

  • Needing confirmation 
  • Testing them
  • Displaying infantile behaviour 
  • Breaking down
  • Blaming 
  • Any other fear-based and ultimately sabotaging behaviour. 

In fact, when this psychic matter is flushed up it is precisely in this moment that there is a “sacred fork in the road”.

Do you go down the route of the ego (the fragile sense of self that has a constant need to survive and exploit) which is a route ultimately of very limited growth, usually decay, death and destruction ….. or the route of total healing?

Taking the sacred route means to meet unhealed matter as it arises and MELT it. This will allow you to break through and become your most incredible, loving, fearless self. 

To then have the most joyous, empowered relationship. 

It will be my pleasure to show you exactly how to do this.


Love can often feel PRECARIOUS, unsafe. Yet there are things you can do to feel TOTALLY safe in Love.

In my program “S.A.F.E. IN LOVE” I will walk you through exactly how to do it, encapsulating the following 4 Principles:

S – Security. Security that comes from within and that is there as a constant.

A – Alchemy. How to transmute and heal all the matter within that makes you feel scared, insecure, neurotic in a relationship. Moving from scared to sacred.

F – Find the Power, Joy and Light in your partner, so that it reflects back at you, and incrementally heals them

E – Execute on the ultimate vision you have with your partner to enjoy the best of life together. 


This is a deep dive into advanced romantic psychology, will involve a deep healing of your fear-based and ego-based programs and patterns, and will set you up to have an exceptional relationship. 

If you’d like to hear more, simply dm me.

I can only fit a total of 20 onto the program and it is first come first served.

Please fill out the follows and Dan will get in contact with you:


Have you noticed how TOTALLY misleading your thoughts and emotions can be?

The most obvious example is the anxiety and fear you might get before an interview (insert any fear-inducing upcoming event, e.g. exam, meeting, public speaking engagement).

The fear level may be at a 7/10 and the thought-stream will match it for intensity:

“This is awful. I don’t want to do this. They’re gonna hate me. I’m gonna get swallowed alive”.

Or it may be a 5. The thought-stream reflects that:

“Agh I don’t like this. I just hope it goes well. I may f*** it up”.

Then you do the interview and FAR from the awful images that were populating your mind with the concurrent dreadful messaging, the interviewers were actually delightful.

You question why you were so nervous.

How many times have you had this kind of thing happen? 5? 10? More?

This reveals the all too frequent fallaciousness and fallibility of your emotions and thoughts (together that make up your PERCEPTION).

Your perception is the internal “culture” through which you view something.

Perception and projection work together and simultaneously.

You PROJECT your perception onto the event, ALL happening within you.

The problem is we naturally BELIEVE our perception to be true.

Yet its frequent fallaciousness ought to give you pause, no?


This is all very well but HOW do you HEAL perception?

How to get the fear level to 1 or 0 where the inherent narrative would be more like:

“I can’t wait for this. I can’t wait to show them my value and win xyz”.

This is the subject of my 1:1 private masterclasses, the HOW to heal perception.

They are FREE to the first 5 people who comment below or DM me with a YES!

Romantic Partner As The Catalyst For Your Massive Healing



The one YOU are hugely attracted to, the one YOU can’t seem to live without, the one YOU want to live the rest of your life with (most of the time!), the one that seems to push ALL your buttons – both the good and bad ones – RIGHT THERE you are at the crossroads of whether you let ego rule the roost, or allow the intrinsic relational MEDICINE to kick in.

Your partner is the PERFECT shape and size for you to learn some very high level life lessons OR to run headlong into the highs and lows of what you’d perhaps see in a day-time Mexican soap opera.

It’s like the lock-and-key hypothesis you find in biological enzymes: 2 agents come together and fit perfectly but instead of a beautiful activation occurring, a flushing up of all that is difficult occurs.

The one that ATTRACTS you— is actually a high-level ruse set up by Divinity for you to be UNCONSCIOUSLY attracted to deep learning and self-healing.

• What are YOUR biggest challenges when it comes to relationships?

• What are the themes that seem to reoccur?

• When do they usually fall down?

I’m opening up sessions on this very rich and beautiful subject area. Please get in touch if you want to get this part of life right. The rewards are VAST.

Love Is The Cure: Romantic Partnership As Fast-Track To Self Healing



We all know how wonderful the honeymoon period is. You pour all that love-energy and sex-energy into that one individual. You see him/her as the one. It’s all different this time. You see the rest of your life with them.

Then boooom, something collapses, the edifice somehow dismantles. It’s no more. Just massive pain and confusion where there was once talk of happy ever after.

How’d you like it when the honeymoon period is over? When real-life kicks in? When the tide goes back out and all the rubbish that’s on the shore line is exposed? How’d you like all that stuff?

How many times has that happened to you? Amazing beginning to a relationship, massively hedonistic then booooom, over.

What just happened?!

So in that NEXT PHASE of the relationship, hard as it is, is the golden chalice that contains all the healing ingredients.

If you know how to RIDE that next phase, then you’re free.

Who’d like to turn their romantic relationships into a huge healing fest?

Who’s ready to STOP this carousel of 3 month to 3 year relationships and go HEAD-LONG into massive self-healing and therefore THE MOST EXTRAORDINARY partnership with someone who IS ready for you?

DM me. We need to talk.

Book in below for a get-to-know-each other session (please include your time zone in the comments).

This intro session will allow you to tell Dan about your key challenges when it comes to relationships, key themes that seem to reoccur plus what your ideal relationship looks like.

Dan will then furnish you with a roadmap from challenge to solution/release. (£55 including roadmap).

The Examined Mind


One of the biggest days of freedom that we have in our lives is when we realise our emotions are wildly misleading and are really no more than an over-inflated mirage.

We perhaps realise this when our anxiety is on major red-alert, over something as ridiculous as someone banging into us by mistake on the bus.

The problem with emotions like anxiety and fear and even guilt is that they are UNEXAMINED, meaning they are not seen through the totally objective lens of scrutiny.

Instead they govern WAY too much decision-making in adult life and they occupy too much space in the psyche. Not to mention their disgraceful discomfort in the body.

Next Tue, I am going to be demonstrating very clearly why emotions can “naff off” (as we say in the British parlance), and importantly what is there BEYOND them: namely peace, bliss and a natural beautiful insight-rich intelligence that will inform you HOW to navigate any life scenario.

This webinar is perfect for you if:

• fear and anxiety get the better of you, and you want to dominate them for a change

• you are done with being so emotional

• you want to choose how you feel, not have situations dictate how you are.

Message me for the link to the live webinar.


The Dial


A new thing I’ve been doing with clients recently is turning the good feelings up in them all the way to their maximum.

The feelings THEY desire instead of the ones that they’ve been struggling with.

For example, empoweredness and aliveness instead of anxiety and lethargy.

This also works really well in SPECIFIC situations where, for example, you’ve been arguing a lot with your partner of late and you’ve been short-tempered AND INSTEAD you want to be kind and calm.

I call it The Dial.

Let’s do the entire process together now.

First, what’s the negative feeling you wish to clear?

Is it fear, anxiety, jealousy, anger? What is it exactly?

Go down into the body to where the FEELING is and SAY to the feeling

“I’m surrounding this with Light”

Repeat the phrase to the feeling one more time.

Think about a situation that tends to PROVOKE that feeling and say the phrase to it 2 more times.

Repeat the entire above sequence til you get to a NEUTRAL state in the body.

Now say the phrase to the feeling of neutrality. This will bring you to net positive.

How do you most WANT to feel instead?

E.g. Empowered.

Close your eyes, see a dial out in front of you. It says Empowered above it. It goes from 0-10.

What number is it on right now?

E.g. 5.

Turn it to 6 (or whatever +1 is) bring more Light in.

Turn it to 7 bring more Light in

Turn it to 8 bring more Light in

Turn it to 9 bring more Light in

Turn it to 10 bring ALL of Light in.

Shake the body, reset, look at the dial now, what number is it on now? Keep tweaking it one number up, all the way to 10 as above.

What’s that like?

You can also use this at the beginning of the day.

How do you most WANT to feel today?


How do you feel right now?


So, first, do the clearing sequence on the feeling you don’t want. THEN the dial on the feeling you do.

This will shift your entire being, energy AND perspective. Please let me know how this exercise is for you.

This is also REALLY POWERFUL if you do it live with Dan.

© Dan Sainsbury Transformational Psychology 2020


Get The F.Unc Out …


This is as good a time as any to lift the bonnet (pop the hood, I don’t know the other 6200 world languages’ equivalents of this phrase .. perhaps wherever you are from please write the equivalent below 😊🙏) and reveal the ENGINE of the way fear and uncertainty work.

And from here on in I’m going to abbreviate fear and uncertainty to F.Unc. We’re going to slam dunk the f.unc today.

F.unc is an entirely natural, internally generated response by the human, HOWEVER it’s ultimately ENTIRELY unhelpful.

It OBFUSCATES a clear path forward.

It DISEMPOWERS you and leaves you weak and writhing around.

It’s WHOLLY SUBJECTIVE meaning that, even though there is a global pandemic of covid19, EACH INDIVIDUAL will have their specific INNER NARRATIVE about what it means for them.

They will also EACH have their specific level and intensity and degree of f.unc from 0-10.

F.unc is, in its essence, when distilled, no more than a FEELING in the body, which then becomes a story-line in the mind which then gets PROJECTED outwards onto the situation. The situation itself is nothing. YOU bring all the meaning and story and feeling to it.

Dan Sainsbury Sessions

In our session, we will

• Clear ALL of the feeling of f.unc

• That will REVEAL more clarity, AT LEAST neutrality about how to be and what to do

• When we clear it to ZERO we then move into the CREATION phase, i.e. we look at what you MOST WANT TO HAPPEN in your life, and manifest that.

I’ve been doing this with a group of people since the outbreak with PHENOMENAL results. A. Their f.unc goes completely and B. They begin to be CRYSTAL-CLEAR about their future AND how to make it happen.

Slam Dunk The F.Unc Sessions

To book your session with me please fill out the form below and I can fit you in over the next 3 days.

I can absolutely guarantee you’ll love it.